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Resources Especially for LGBT Victims of Abuse

Show Me Love DC! is a campaign to raise awareness about healthy relationships and provide resources for LGBTQ survivors of intimate partner violence.

Resources for Men and Women

Alternatives to Violence – (970) 669-5150
Loveland, CO
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Domestic Violence Support Group:  An open support group* for women who are recovering from abusive relationships, are abusive relationships, have questions regarding abuse etc…This group provides a space to share one’s stories, to receive affirmation, to get and offer help, and to build friendships and a support network outside of group.

Men’s Group: An open support group* for male victims of violent crime: assault, robbery, domestic violence, false allegations, family survivors of homicide and suicide.

Resources for Victims and Others




  • Why do men stay in abusive relationships – Usually women are the victims of domestic violence but men are not spared. The reasons for becoming a victim of domestic violence are similar for both genders.


The U.S. Office on Violence Against Women (OVW) defines domestic violence as a pattern of abusive behavior in any relationship that is used by one partner to gain or maintain power and control over another intimate partner. Domestic violence can be physical, sexual, emotional, economic, or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person. This includes any behaviors that intimidate, manipulate, humiliate, isolate, frighten, terrorize, coerce, threaten, blame, hurt, injure, or wound someone.

Domestic violence can happen to anyone regardless of race, age, sexual orientation, religion, or gender. It affects people of all socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels. It occurs in both opposite-sex and same-sex relationships and can happen to intimate partners who are married, living together, or dating.

A recent U.S. Department of Justice, Bureau of Justice Statistics report of December 2006 indicates that intimate partner violence has declined between 1993 and 2004 so it would appear that bringing this issue to the public eye has met with some success.

According to this study, in 2004 there were over 627,000 nonfatal intimate partner victimizations, 475,900 of which were against females and 151,000 against males.  One-third of these offenses were serious violent crimes and involved either serious injuries, weapons or sexual offenses.

On average from 1993-2004 about 97% of female victims were victimized by a male, 2% were victimized by another female, about 84% of male victims were victimized by a female and about 12% were victimized by another male, according to the Bureau of Justice.

The decline in intimate partner violence has been seen mostly in nonfatal intimate partner violence against females.  There were about 10 victimizations per 1,000 persons age 12 and older in 1993 compared to four victimizations per 1,000 persons in 2004.  Nonfatal intimate partner violence against males has remained relatively stable with 1.6 victimizations per 1,000 males age 12 and older in 1993 compared to 1.3 per 1,000 in 2004.

There has been a greater decline in the number of intimate partner homicide victims for male victims than female victims. In 1993, the number of females murdered by intimates was 1,571, compared to 1,159 during 2004, which was a 26 percent decline. The number of males murdered by partners during 1993 was 698 compared to 385 in 2004, a 45 percent decline.

NOTE: It has been theorized that offering women supportive services to help them escape violence partners has cut down on the number of intimate partner homicides against men.  Women now have a way out of the violence.

Additionally, on average between 1993-2004, children were residents in the households in 43% of the incidents involving female victims and 25% of the incidents involving male victims, according to the Bureau of Justice.


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